Category Archive: Ideas and Advice

No More Excuses – Part III: “But I Hate Exercising…”


Making Workouts Feel Less Like Work


I’m going to let you into a little secret, one that you might find surprising, given the fact that I’m a personal trainer:  I don’t like exercising. In fact, I’d much rather curl up on the couch with a good book and a hot cup of tea.  So how do I find the will to get up at 4:30 every morning to work out?  How do I make exercising fun and enjoyable; something for which I want to get out of bed? Here are 8 ideas that will hopefully inspire you, and keep you moving during these short cold days:


1)    GOALS: Set small, medium, and long term attainable goals for yourself; if you’re unsure what goals are realistic and which are a little “overzealous”, do some research, or simply drop me a line. Rejoice in your successes, and reward yourself when you reach a goal (although preferably NOT with food). Buy yourself something nice after losing X lbs; take a day off after exercising consistently over a set period of time; go on a small vacation once you’ve dropped X inches around your hips or waist. Work hard and play hard.


2)    FRIENDSHIP: Some people prefer social interaction when they exercise and some people prefer solitude. If exercising with friends will spur you and keep you on track, there are many ways nowadays to find an exercise partner or group and keep each other motivated, both on- and off-line.  Working out with friends, or engaging in another physical pursuit or sport with your peers, is often enjoyable and enthusing. Each encourages the other; each inspires the other.


3)    MUSIC: Put a few playlists together, making sure the tempo is fast enough, and enjoy exercising to your favorite songs. Let the rhythm move you. When you think you can’t go on any more, your body willing to give up, just push yourself to the end of the next song.


4)    LEARN: Be twice as productive. Exercise while listening to a shiur. Better yet, set yourself a goal of completing a set of shiurim or even daf yomi, and nourish your neshamah as you exercise your guf. You can also watch or listen to lectures (check out


5)    PLAY: On the other hand, if you fancy something a little less “cerebral”, with the advent of and Netflix, as well as “old school” DVDs, you can put on your favorite show or a good movie and lose yourself for a while. If you don’t finish the movie or have more episodes to watch, there’s the added incentive to exercise again and finish what you were watching.


6)    VARIETY: Mix up your workout routines. Don’t repeat a workout so often that it gets stale. Try different exercises. Switch around your exercise order. Your options are only limited by your creativity and imagination.


7)    EXPERIENCE: Try different cardio options. There’s more to life than the treadmill. Try rowing, cycling, stair climbing, or the elliptical. Try interval training, yoga, Zumba, Pilates, kickboxing, hip hop classes (I did this one myself last year, it was great), or sports you can play inside such as basketball or 5-a-side soccer. Sign up for a “bootcamp” training session. Get out of your comfort zone and try something new.


8)    APPRECIATE: Finally, although winter is coming, start thinking about the spring now. Get out more. Try bike riding, hiking, running, sports, or even surfing; the list goes on and on. Aside from the exercise, the fresh air is healthy for you too. Take time to “smell the roses” and appreciate this amazing world Hashem has created for us.


Most importantly, remember, you’re exercising to be healthy; do it for yourself – turn off your cell phone, ask your spouse to look after the kids (or get up half an hour earlier before they wake up), and treat yourself to some “alone time”. You deserve it.


When you’re done, take an additional few minutes to care for your body and purify your soul’s wondrous instrument; no shower feels as good as the one that is earned.

Chanukah! Thanksgiving! The Calories Are Coming, The Calories Are Coming! Run For Your Lives!

Don’t Panic!


After discussing how to survive the constant barrage of unhealthy high-calorie foods that seem to incessantly invade our environment, we’re now faced with a double whammy: eight days of Chanukah AND Thanksgiving, all rolled into one! Classic! I think this would be a good opportunity, therefore, to discuss how best to handle the upcoming holidays vis-à-vis the expected caloric overload.


Let’s start with what will happen.  You are going to treat yourself to a donut (doughnut?) or latka, and perhaps even two; and you are going to enjoy a Thanksgiving meal with friends and/or family. These are good things; this is how it should be. What you shouldn’t do is a) think that eating 2,000 or even 3,000 calories in a single sitting won’t affect you; b) think that you can work off the surplus calories the day after by running a marathon; or c) worry about overindulging to the point where your enjoyment of the festivities is compromised.


So, what to do, what do to? How to reconcile the inevitable onslaught?


I don’t believe it’s realistic to avoid or deny such temptations, nor do I think it’s healthy to do so. However, enjoying yourself doesn’t necessarily mean opening the floodgates either. Instead, it means ‘preparation beforehand’; ‘discipline, thought and enjoyment during’; and ‘control and appreciation afterwards’:


PREPARATION BEFOREHAND: Don’t come home from work to light the Chanukah candles, ravenous and willing to eat every donut or latka within arms’ reach the moment you finish singing Maoz Tzur. Instead, make sure you eat a snack in the late afternoon to ‘take the edge off’ before you come home. Feel free to have a Chanukah treat, but only after eating a healthy supper loaded with stomach-filling vegetables; you’ll eat less unhealthy food afterwards. Similarly, don’t start the Thanksgiving dinner on a totally empty stomach. I know its counter intuitive (why would you eat before you eat in order to eat less?), but even drinking a large glass of water before a meal will help keep your hunger at bay long enough for you to eat more mindfully. Which brings me to…


DISCIPLINE, THOUGHT AND ENJOYMENT DURING: Always eat mindfully. Know why you’re eating the food you’re eating, and have a sense of how much food you need. Eat for fuel, not for fun. Eat slowly, purposefully, and with kavanah. Make a bracha like you mean it, and appreciate every bite. If you’ve ever watched a small child enjoy a cookie, you’ll know what I mean; they don’t eat the cookie, they experience the cookie. Appreciate every mouthful in the moment, and stop thinking of the next bite before you’ve even finished chewing the last.


CONTROL AND APPRECIATION AFTERWARDS: That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have dessert, but know that you’re eating dessert for enjoyment, not because you’re hungry; if you’re hungry, eat food that’s nutritious. Feel free to eat anything you like, but always in moderation. Finally, know when to say ‘enough’; animals don’t overeat in their natural environment, and nor should you. Gluttony is a sin, pure and simple.



Try 20-45 minutes of moderate to vigorous exercise (cardio intervals are excellent) within an hour before the big meal; this will increase your metabolism, minimizing the caloric surplus, and shuttle the nutrients in the food to where they’re needed, not to your waistline. You can also exercise after the meal, waiting 30-90 minutes to allow for digestion.


Finally, if you do find you’ve eaten more than you should have, try to eat less and exercise more the remainder of the day. If you accidently dropped your phone on the ground, you wouldn’t think of jumping up and down on it just because you slipped up once – we all make bad decisions from time to time, don’t throw good money after bad, don’t pick at the wound…dress it, and move on with your life.


Prepare beforehand; enjoy in moderation and with appreciation; and always thank Hashem for the amazing gifts of good food and good health. What better time to do so then now, during Chanukah and Thanksgiving?


No More Excuses – Part II: Surrounded By Nosh

More Reasons Not To Give Up


Last post I discussed that having a lack of time and a lack of support can be two reasons why it’s sometimes difficult to reach our health and fitness goals. This week, I’d like to examine another common excuse, and see if we can’t, instead, use it as a tool to help us achieve our objectives.


SURROUNDED BY NOSH AT HOME/WORK: Pizza day at work? Your co-worker decides to treat the whole office to the leftovers from their weekend birthday party? Your spouse believes that always keeping packets of cookies on hand in the house is vital, just in case there’s a blackout? Here in the affluent west, we’re all surrounded by a continual barrage of alluring unhealthy indulgences. It’s so easy to make unwise choices, especially when everyone around us makes those same poor choices. So how can we fight the tide? How can we muster the self-control and discipline to “choose life”?


First of all, once you’ve made the healthy decision to make healthier decisions, and have stocked up on more nutritious alternatives, make a clean sweep of your kitchen and pantry (and anywhere else you may have a ‘stash’). All you need to do after that is stop walking down the cookie aisle in the supermarket. Does that mean you’ll never eat another cookie or piece of cake again? No, of course not, nor should it be, and we’ll discuss more about that in a subsequent issue, but for now, simply know that it’s far more challenging to make better food choices when familiar temptations continue to be so readily available.


One of the biggest excuses I hear regarding people’s ‘questionable’ food choices is “there was nothing else to eat”, especially if you’re in unfamiliar surroundings; well that’s easy enough to change: Think ahead. Always think ahead, always have healthful foods with you, or at the very least, healthier alternatives to the more deleterious enticements we’re all inevitably faced with from time to time. Don’t wait until you’re hungry before wondering what there is to eat; inevitably, the only foods that are easily obtainable in those pivotal instances are not ideal, to say the least. Instead, plan ahead and prevent the ‘surprise’ of ‘having’ to have an unhealthy snack. I suggest preparing your meals in advance, several at a time in separate containers that you can grab from the fridge whenever you need them. Before you go out, even if you’re not hungry at that moment, grab an apple or a handful of nuts for later, just in case there aren’t any healthy alternatives at your destination. 


Finally, learn to say ‘no’; don’t give in to social or familial pressure. Admittedly, we’re all affected by foods differently; so ultimately, you must make the right choices for your own body. For some people, though, sugar and fat can feel just as addictive as drugs; a fact that is sometimes difficult to comprehend by those people who don’t share those same intense cravings.


At the end of the day, then, only you can control what goes into your mouth; it is only your own reflection with which you must contend. You are stronger than that piece of cake.

Obesity in the Frum World, and of our Children in Particular

Excellent article about obesity in the frum world, and of our children in particular.  Well worth the read.  Includes many good health tips.

Guard Your Neshama, Fortify Your Body

A Rant From A Frum Personal Trainer


Week after week, I continually find myself in awe of our beloved Rabbanim who give so much of their time and selves to serve their respective communities, preparing presentation after presentation to invigorate us all. Sitting attentively in shul, I generally find the words of our leaders inspiring and motivating, instilling in me a sense of purpose; moving me to be a better person, a better Jew, a better husband, a better father, and a better son. As I look around my own community, and those orthodox communities throughout Bergen County, and further afield, I would postulate we’re generally heading in the right direction; improving, growing, developing, and evolving. Their precious words are having an impact. 


However, as I proudly look around the shuls, I also notice something else, something concerning, something saddening… people’s ever expanding waistlines and neglected bodies. In a country where more than a third of adults and approximately 17% of children and adolescents aged 2-19 years are obese, it appears the trend has not escaped our own Jewish communities. In this extended article, I don’t intend to examine the obesity epidemic in the US. Rather, I would like to discuss our own role as frum Jews in adding our own numbers to these sobering statistics. I would also stress that the comments herein are not directed towards any particular shul or community; rather, these issues appear to me to be endemic.


Many years ago, it was explained to me, half in jest, that the root of Jewish festivals can be summarized as follows: “We won, we eat; we lost, we fast”. While we all know there’s a lot more to our holidays than that, it does highlight what is, as is true in many other cultures, so important to our religion and way of life: food. 


From celebratory kiddushim, to the seuda ha’mafseket; from seudot mitzvah, to the seudat ha’vraah; from doughnuts and latkes on Chanukah, to matza and wine on Pesach; and from cheesecake on Shavuot, to honey on Rosh Hashanah. Food is nourishing, food is symbolic, food is comforting, food is emblematic of our role as spiritual beings living on a physical plane; we must do as our bodies do – learn to distinguish the good from the bad; imbibing the positive from the world around us, and expelling the negative. 


But we also have a mitzvah to guard our souls (Venishmartem Meod Lenafshoteichem [Devarim 4:15]), to maintain our bodies, to respect the vessel in which our holy essence resides. How important is this task to us? Do we place even a fraction of the value of a healthy diet and exercise against the eternal merit and virtue of a moment of Torah study? How long can we expect to serve Hashem in a decrepit and ailing body?


Unfortunately, I think we’re failing, both as individuals and as communities, to adequately address and safeguard this important mitzvah.


Our shuls have become, in large part, meeting places to socialize and eat, with the weekly Shabbat kiddush increasingly becoming the focal point of our gatherings. Being able to celebrate a joyous occasion with the community with good food and merriment is a wonderful blessing from Hashem; hedonistic abandon and disregard of the mitzvah to be healthy, however, is not what I would contend our smachot should portray. Nosh and often alcohol is plentiful, to be sure, but can we not have a more nutritious balance? (and cholent hardly counts). Let us provide ourselves and our families with a thoughtful array of treats that offer both soulful enjoyment and physical benefit. When we celebrate together, and the only foods presented are those that are deleterious to our health, what message do we give our children? 


Moreover, it seems to me that the nature of the infamous shul “Candy Man” has changed somewhat from when I was younger. The relationship between the older and younger generation, the former inspiring the latter with a single piece of candy and a friendly smile, has now morphed into a relationship between our children and the candy itself. Don’t misunderstand me – there is value to sweetening the shul experience for our youngsters, giving them an incentive and some physical enjoyment when they’re in shul – but handing out candy with no strings attached, or even worse, letting them take as much as they like, is not something, in my opinion, that should be commended. It should be expected that each child say “Good Shabbos” and “please” before being allowed a piece of candy, and I mean a single piece, to be then followed by a “thank you”. We may only be able to hope for appreciation from our children, but we should always expect respect from them. In all instances, our children should understand that candy is a treat to be eaten in moderation, not a right they have to claim in abundance, nor a reward for good behavior. This is not a criticism of our children; it’s a castigation of us adults – we should know better! 


The place for candy and junk food in all our lives should be questioned; consuming anything in considered moderation is good and proper, but unfettered access and expectation of physical pleasure cannot be good for either us or our children.  


We can’t send our children mixed messages; they’re too smart for that. We can’t preach a healthy diet in our schools, but then allow them to sell only junk food for their graduation trip fundraiser.  We can’t expect them to respect their bodies, when we as parents hardly exercise and show little restraint regarding what enters our mouths.


Our focus on food is compounded by our lack of focus on exercise. Throughout all my many years of schooling and spiritual education, yeshiva and shul attendance, I’ve attended thousands of lessons, lectures, drashas, sermons, and shiurim with themes as varied as halacha, hashkafa, mussar, textual analysis, history and philosophy. I’ve been enjoined, time and time again, to learn more Torah, give more charity, support more community programs, and raise a Jewish family. Unfortunately, I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve been instructed to look after my body, to exercise, to strive to be healthier. Why? Why don’t our Rabbis, our parents, and our peers stress the importance of maintaining our physical health in addition to our spiritual health? We encourage so much learning in our communities, and that’s highly commendable, but we hardly promote maintaining a healthy body. Sporadic single-gender fitness classes in shul social halls are a good start, but in our communities there should be just as many exercise classes as there are shiurim. If we don’t maintain our bodies, how can we expect to develop our neshamot?


The kashrut of a food should not concern us more than whether we should be eating it at all.


I urge each and every one of us to examine our spiritual relationship with our own bodies, and to reassess the importance and priority of maintaining a healthy lifestyle as orthodox Jews.

No More Excuses – How to Circumvent Your Yetzer Hara

The Art of Discipline


By now, Rosh Hashana and Succot may seem like a distant memory. Alas, however, as you look down, perhaps some added girth may remind you otherwise; perhaps your frame feels weak and unhealthy?  It’s now time to do something about it. Last post we started thinking about what we’d like to achieve physically; we listed the reasons we’ve been unable to get there thus far, and the motivations for setting our goals.


We’d all like to live longer and live better; after all, the healthier we are, the better we can serve Hashem. So what’s stopping us? Simply put… our attitudes. Our attitudes dictate our priorities, and out of our priorities flow our excuses. Excuses plague our lives; they stop us from doing what we really want to do, what we should be doing, what we must be doing. 


Changing one’s attitude, however, is harder than you’d think. There’s a reason 70% of people who begin a workout regimen quit soon after starting. Their attitudes are built on flimsy foundations. Instead, then, we’re going to reverse engineer the solution. We’re going to target our excuses, and rearrange our priorities. Once we’ve done that, our attitudes will follow.


How do we crush our excuses? We must learn to outsmart ourselves, which, ironically, is increasingly harder the more intelligent you are. Just like the concept of muktza, though, once we learn to plan ahead and put up fences around our demons, self-control and self-mastery follow. If we prevent our excuses from ever showing up, they’ll be unable to stop the party.


Let’s take a look at two of the more common excuses, with some of my suggestions to thwart them:


DON’T HAVE TIME: Try getting up half an hour earlier and workout before the day even begins; it’ll start your whole day on a positive note, and working out on an empty stomach burns more calories from fat. Don’t have half an hour to spare? Do 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the evening. Try going for a brisk walk during your lunch break. If you have half an hour to surf the web, watch TV, talk with friends, or any of the other myriad “very important” activities we all do to relax and ‘unwind’, consider, for a moment, the reasons you’d like to be healthier in the first place; then revisit just how important that ‘relaxation’ really is …


NO SUPPORT FROM FRIENDS/FAMILY: Insert yourself into a healthy environment by surrounding yourself with a support system; search for a pre-existing group, or make yourself the center of your inspiration. Try an on-line group. Get together with friends and start your own group. I recently heard of a family (including parents, children, grandparents, and siblings) who’ve started their own “Biggest Loser” competition, each putting in $100 to the ‘pot’, with gift cards every week for the person who loses the most weight that week, followed by a grand weigh-in just before Chanuka for the remainder of the money. Sometimes, your inspiration must come from within. Always ask yourself why you want to be healthier; at the end of the day, with all the support in the world, the battle is always your own.


In future articles, we’ll discuss other familiar hurdles we all encounter, and offer ideas to not leap over them, but to find ways to avoid them all together. We’ll talk about what to do if you continually find yourself surrounded by nosh at home or work; finding ways to enjoy exercise when just the thought of getting off the couch makes you cringe; and learning that it’s ok to continue enjoying the foods you love to eat.  If you have any other suggested topics or questions you’d like discussed, feel free to e-mail me.


We all have obstacles that often appear overwhelming. You’re not alone. I can almost guarantee others have shared your pain. Together, and with Hashem’s good grace, we can pierce the barriers that hold us back, preventing us from reaching our true potential, and flourish to be the best we can be. You CAN succeed. You CAN accomplish your goals. Is the choice anyone else’s?

Getting Back On Track After The Yomim Tovim

You’ve Worked On Your Neshamah, Now It’s Time To Work On Your Guf


So how did you fare? Did you take my suggestions on board over the yom tov period? Ate fewer starchy carbs and heavy desserts? Went out for a power walk to work off all those heavy meals? If you did, well done; your body and I thank you! If not, don’t fret; what’s done is done. Now it’s time to get back on track; it’s a great time to assess what your goals are physically, and to take some time to figure out how you’re going to attain them. It’s a new year, a new beginning, full of opportunity.


But getting back on track is hard if your belts seem to have shrunk, or your dresses don’t quite fit like they used to before the chagim. When the person you see in the mirror looks a little less healthy than you recall, that reflection can be so discouraging, and the journey ahead may seem so overwhelming. Where do you start?


How do Jews improve, year to year? We wipe the slate clean. On Kol Nidrei night, when we negate every vow, we dismiss every excuse we ever told ourselves why we couldn’t reach our goals. Those promises you made, those affirmations that held you back, no longer exist. “I could never go running”; “exercising just isn’t for me”; “I can’t stop eating that” – each of these “vows” is now moot. You’ve wiped the slate clean and are a different person to who you were last year.  


Don’t plan on making huge life-altering changes from today to tomorrow; it’ll never last. Instead, ask yourself why you were never able to keep your previous resolutions to keep fit and eat right: Didn’t have time? Surrounded by nosh at home and at work? Little support from friends or family? Dislike exercising? Like eating junk food too much? Last year, these excuses were walls that stopped you from achieving your goals; now, however, they’re challenges to overcome and opportunities to embrace. I’d like you to write down each of these excuses on the left-hand side of a single sheet of paper. Face them.  Contemplate them. Know thy enemy. In future articles we’ll examine each of these excuses in more detail, and I’ll offer helpful suggestions to eliminate each and every one from your repertoire of defenses, but for now, I’m only requesting that you list them.


Now, on the right-hand side of the paper, write down every reason why you have those physical goals in the first place. Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to be healthier? Why do you want to be stronger, more agile, or more flexible? Perhaps you’re fed up of being out of breath when you play with your kids or grandkids? Perhaps you want to know you’ll be there for your spouse for many years to come? Perhaps you want the stamina to learn more, study more, and do more mitzvot


Scrutinize your barriers, but focus on your goals; our strength to persevere will come from the right-hand side of the page. 


Only you can change you, so know why you want to change, and make it happen. After 120 years, we’ll all be asked if we did the best each of us could do, each of us standing alone, totally culpable for our actions. You are not judged against your siblings, your friends, or your coworkers; you are only judged against yourself. Did YOU do the best that YOU could do? 


Never let your excuses define who you are. Let’s work together to make each of us better.

Do Shabbat & Yom Tov Calories Really Count?

Finding the Balance: Nourish Your Neshamah AND Satiate Your Guf


What would you like the answer to be? I wish I could tell you “no, don’t worry about them, calories only count on days we say Magdil”, but unfortunately, that’s not the case. 


During any normal Shabbat, doing the right thing for your body is tough enough: eating 2-3 large meals, including one late at night, and often with guests; compounded by the fact that you can’t exercise to any large extent, and instead spend the majority of the day sitting at home/shul (getting called up for an aliyah doesn’t count as exercise). This year, of course, with 3-day yomim tovim, we have three times the challenge… and three times over four weeks, no less.


So how can we ensure we don’t leave the festival period with, in addition to an elevated neshamah, an extra inch or two around our waists/hips? 


Here are my seven suggestions to carry us through the chaggim (and any regular Shabbat too):


  1. Start the day with some food in your stomach before shul (e.g. a piece of fruit or a glass of milk); it’ll kick-start your metabolism. 
  2. Limit your intake of starchy carbohydrates like potatoes, rice and bread throughout the day, but particularly during the evening meals. Instead, fill up on salads; and in particular, vegetables with a low glycemic index such as spaghetti squash, broccoli, spinach, cucumber, and other fibrous greens. These foods are less likely to spike your blood insulin level.
  3. Try substituting high caloric desserts (such as cake, cookies, and ice cream) with healthier options (like fruit – what I like to call “God’s dessert”).
  4. Limit your alcohol consumption – at around seven ‘empty’ calories per gram, alcohol contains nearly twice the amount of energy as carbohydrate and protein (around four calories per gram). Fat contains around nine calories per gram.
  5. Weather permitting, take a 30- to 60-minute walk after lunch; and I mean ‘walk’, not ‘amble’ – both your heart rate and mood should be elevated. Hippocrates once said, “Walking is man’s best medicine.” Take your family and friends with you too.
  6. Keep your evening meal portions small, and try to finish your meal at least 2 hours before going to sleep.
  7. Keep hydrated throughout the day – it’ll help with digestion.


Yom Tov and Shabbat shouldn’t be times you dread, always worried about what you’re going to eat, and the weight you may gain. Food should be something we utilize to delight in the chag, to elevate the chag, and to instill spirituality in the chag. Rather than letting calories dictate your enjoyment of these special days, try to focus on what the chag is really about – appreciation for what we have; appreciation with a healthy outlook and an elevated perspective; appreciation for what Hashem has graciously given us. 


We can’t control the weather (as Hashem often reminds us this time of year), but we can control what goes in our mouths, and how we look after our bodies. Just because we can’t exercise as much as we’d like, doesn’t mean everything about our health should fall by the wayside. For example, if you know your wife’s made your favorite chocolate cake for dessert (mmmm….), go for a run before yom tov, and plan the rest of your meals during yom tov accordingly.


As we sit in the succah – our temporary home for a brief few days – let us also be cognizant of the temporary home in which our neshamot reside. Let’s appreciate them, look after them, and use them the way Hashem intended – as well as possible, for as long as possible. May we all have an enjoyable and meaningful yom tov and chag sameach.

Water in the Morning

Here’s a suggestion to kickstart your metabolism – as soon as you rise in the morning, treat yourself to 1-2 cups (8-16oz) of water; it’ll wake you up and let your dehydrated body know it can start burning fuel (fat) again after several hours of fasting. 

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